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Many of my clients discuss a feeling of loneliness within their marriages. Often their spouses look at them with confusion or contempt.
Just Not Feeling It may also be helpful in explaining how you feel. You may or may not seem to be a happy couple to others, and you may or may not be able to keep a united front for the .
You realize that you and your spouse are worlds apart on some basic values, which frightens you and makes you wonder why you married him or her at all. Your spouse seems to say the wrong thing at the wrong time all the time, and you wonder if this was always the case and you were too young, stupid or infatuated to notice. Compliments are few and far between, and not about things that you yourself are proud of. You personally have very little idea what he or she thinks about all day, either.
You have tried to ask and the conversations seem to go nowhere. Your spouse seems confused and annoyed, wondering what you want. You often argue about silly things that are stand-ins for deeper issues.
You say increasingly less about yourself, and the majority of your conversations become about the kids, work, or the house. When you are in a lonely marriage, your spouse may want sex as much as ever, but it makes you feel sad, shut down, and even angry when you try. You feel that there is no emotional connection there.
You learn to go through the motions so that you can appease your spouse, or keep up appearances in your own mind, but you often become detached from your own sexuality in the process. Kissing and hugging usually stops before sex, except the kiss goodbye in front of the. In a lonely marriage, sometimes you become a better parent because you throw yourself into your children. But then you worry about smothering them or burdening them with too much of your emotional need. Your kids try to cheer you up when you seem sad, and that makes you feel sadder, because you want your kids to have a happy parent.
Sometimes you are attracted to other people, which makes you feel both guilty and angry. You find yourself unable to picture what your marriage will look like in five or 10 years. If you can, it makes you sad. You take up many outside interests, throw yourself into work, or make lots of friends in order to show yourself that life can be fine without having a close relationship with your spouse. You thrive in all these environments, but grow more detached at home. The saddest part of your loneliness is that sometimes you have the feeling that your partner feels the same way that you do.
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